I’m not trying to be cliché with the title but T-Swift had just released 1989 and “Welcome to New York” was basically my theme song while moving up there from Virginia. Here is what my first 48 hours of life in NYC looked like:
I moved to Washington Heights, 179th Street in NYC the second week of November 2014 and it was an adventure from the very first day. I scored a free ticket to attend Cosmopolitan’s Fun Fearless Life event. This was their first ever 2-day conference that included speeches from powerful women, fun freebies, and networking. It felt so, so… Gossip Girl, New York City, and down right glamorous! Maybelline had a group of make up artists at a makeover station to give free makeovers to anyone who was interested, while also giving out their newest lipsticks. Express was also a sponsor and gave every attendee a cute clutch with a portable phone charger (which honestly saved my life wandering around the city).
Once everyone was settled in their seats the event began in true Cosmopolitan fashion with about 20 very good looking, open-shirted men walking up to the stage (I don’t know why I expected anything less) to introduce the Editor-In-Chief Joanna Coles.
The day continued with one powerful, motivating woman after the other!
Some notable speakers were: Sara Blakely – some of you may know her as the founder of Spanx, Sallie Krawcheck, Sophia Amoruso – founder and owner of Nasty Gal, Chrissy Teigen, Kelly Osbourne, and many others.
There was also a panel of women including:
- Julie Greenwald – if you’re involved in the music industry you may know her for breaking the barriers and becoming the President of Island Def Jam Records at a time when music was a mans world. One tip she gave that stuck with me was that if you’re trying to make it in your career, there is no punching the clock and no job too big or small. Do everything and be vulnerable so that people will get to know you.
- Megyn Kelly – known on Fox News for the Kelly Files. Her tip was to stand out and be memorable even if it’s in a male dominated career.
- Amy Cuddy – well know Body Language Psychologist. She shared the importance of the power-pose and making yourself bigger before any important event (interviews, presentations etc.). It increases your testosterone and decreases your cortisol levels. What does that mean? You become more confident and less stressed!
We also heard from Dr. Meg Jay, Clinical Psychologist and author of The Defining Decade: Why your twenties matter – and how to make the most of them now. Obviously, since I am in my 20’s this really intrigued me. At the time, I was unemployed, in a new city and didn’t know what I was doing with my life so I really laser focused on what Dr. Jay had to say. She explained the strength of “weak ties”. Weak ties are people you know that you only occasionally or rarely are in contact with, basically anyone you’ve ever met in your entire life that you’re not currently close friends with including friends of friends. These are the people that can help expand your horizons. This is kind of the opposite of what you would think would be the case. That’s when she addressed the weakness of “strong ties”. As you can probably guess, strong ties are the most supportive people in your life but they are usually similar to us (thoughts, ideas, likes/dislikes), which can actually limit us. This makes a lot of sense when you think about it. So if you have a new idea or want to start a business – the people you need to reach out to are actually your weak ties.
My take away message from her was to be upfront and specific about what you want and if you continue to live your life the exact same way as you are now for the next 2 years, will you be happy with your life? No? Then make some changes.
Unfortunately, since it was move in weekend I didn’t get to attend day 2 of the event. I did make it on the big screen though! We got to take pictures where you were placed onto the cover of the magazine and mine made it on stage!
I spent the next day building Ikea furniture with my mom and Mike, her boyfriend, which was totally fine because I learned a lot that first day in NYC and at Fun Fearless Life. I also ran out and bought The Defining Decade that week (I have a lot to say about it – that will be a future post). The whole weekend was a memorable way to start my new adventure in New York City! Here’s how my room turned out at the end of the weekend **loveeee**